Have you ever asked the question, why me?
I have. Self-pity is a form of bondage. You have to choose to give up self-pity to be free deliberately.
Many of us want the new yet we hold on to the past things. You have to let go of the blame, bitterness, and self-pity to embrace the new fully.
Like the man at the pool of Bethesda, Jesus asked, are you sure you want to be healed? John 5:5-6
Self-pity is not an emotion in itself; it’s a state of mind. Self-pity ensues when you focus too much on your problems and believe you are a victim of circumstance.
It feels good to wallow in self-pity over the short term; hence it’s easy to fall into it. If we stay in self-pity for a while, it becomes like a bottomless black pit that’s difficult to climb out. It's my prayer that none of us will fall into self-pity and wallow in it so that we can freely embrace the new. Shalom